A life without relationships might feel lonely, but life WITH relationships might feel complicated, emotionally draining, and confusing. Since relationships are such a vital part of life, having a dedicated space to learn how to make them satisfying and healthy is essential.
We offer online couples counseling for couples who feel disconnected and out of sync, are tired of the same cycle of conflict and misunderstandings, who struggle to communicate openly and assertively, and are having a hard time bridging different values, expectations, and needs within their relationship.
When working with couples, our therapists incorporate the Gottman Method. Based on over 40 years of research, this approach integrates scientific findings with practical interventions to help couples strengthen their friendship, improve conflict management, and create shared meaning and connection within their relationship.
What To Expect During Couples Counseling With Us
- Each individual will be given space to share their perspective and needs.
- The only side we’re taking is the relationship’s side. We are here to help you work together as a team to help you heal and grow in your relationship with one another.
- You’ll learn practical tools to practice outside of session. The work you do in session matters. The work you do outside of session equally matters because that’s where cycles are broken and tools/skills are strengthened.
Our Approach to Couples Counseling
Our therapists incorporate the Gottman Method to help couples rebuild what feels broken and strengthen what they’re already doing right. We start with an assessment to better understand each of you as individuals and as a couple. We then create treatment goals with you so we’re all on the same page about what we’re working towards. Then we start working towards these goals together, which might might include strengthening communication skills, improving conflict resolution, rebuilding trust, and strengthening emotional connection.
Common Relationship Challenges We Address
- Frequent arguments
- Poor communication
- Emotional distance
- Trust issues
- Emotional intimacy
- Parenting disagreements and adjustment to a new baby
- Life transitions
- Relationship anxiety
Is Couples Counseling Right for You?
How do you know when you should go to couples counseling? See a few indicators below.
- Frequent arguments with no resolution
- Lacking points of connection throughout the day and weeks
- Difficulty communicating open and honestly with your partner
- Feeling disconnected and wanting to get back to “how things used to be”
- Inability to resolve individual differences that impact roles as a partner or parent
- Needing help to heal from a betrayal
- Online research and advice from trusted people hasn’t made much of a difference in your relationship
Why Choose Our Practice?
We understand how important your relationship is to you and will work hard with you to make it the healthiest version possible.
We create space to hear each person’s perspective, assess what works and doesn’t work in the relationship, and offer direct feedback and practical solutions to help course correct.
We recognize that healing and growth can can take place through processing your experiences and points of view and we combine this with tools aimed at helping you build connection and work through conflict more effectively. For example, with the Gottman Method approach, we help you identify the Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling, which can lead to the breakdown of a relationship, and we teach you how to replace them with their Antidotes: a Gentle Start-Up, Build a Culture of Appreciation, Take Responsibility, and Physiological Self-Soothing. The Gottman Method is a research-based approach based on over 40 years of research.
We also take a strengths-based approach, meaning that while we help you focus on areas of growth, we also want to build on your strengths and history together.
We offer couples counseling online throughout all of California. Both individuals must be in California at the time that each session takes place. Offering services virtually allows for more flexibility in scheduling. We offer daytime and evening appointments.
If you and your partner are ready to strengthen your relationship, improve communication, or navigate difficult challenges together, couples counseling can provide the support you need. Contact us today to schedule a consultation and take the first step toward a healthier, more connected relationship.
